Archive for November, 2009


Once again – another stellar division meeting put on by Eduardo Santana and his CORE team of dedicated men.

I got there early to help Rod Green set up lighting and our new sound system.   i was glad to be able to have the time to do this.  It felt good to work within my field and benefit the division.

So  –  why did the division meeting suck ?

Well in using the World Sucks Chart model,  all the bad things about my life were sucked out of me.

With David Anderson’s ritual,   I got to hear other men identify and give voice to their inner demons.    The same inner demons I hear in my head that make me feel I’m insane.   If only I could be like ________ then I’d be okay.     Only to find out – I’m not alone.   Other men are just as insane as me.   OR  MAYBE –  just as sane.   Imagine that.   Having inner demon voices  AND  being sane.

It felt good to hear the same thoughts I have come out of other men’s mouths.   It sucked me dry and left me free to be.

And that’s why the division meeting sucked !!!


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Confidece is Sexy



Ever walked into a room and felt magnetized towards a certain someone?  Perhaps they weren’t even what the media would consider physically attractive, but they have a presence that exudes sexiness.  What is that certain something?  It is a quality that no one can take away, and all of us can have it. It is our belief in our self and our unique individuality that separates us from being “just another pretty face.”  Our confidence is our sexiest trait.

We’ve also met that person

who, from across the room, wore a mask of perfection that drew us in.  But then, that nervousness, that insecurity, that cold bitterness and negativity that came from within, turned into a major turn off, and repelled us just as quickly as we were pulled in. (more…)

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DC’s Vine

To the Men of Full Monty,I spent a few extra minutes this morning gazing into the faces of my son and wife, feeling gratitude for having them in my life. What I learned at last night’s Division Meeting  helped me turn away from the voices of judgment that often keep me from seeing them as anything less than true blessings. I recognize that sometimes, I play a judgmental tapeloop




in my head that does nothing for me but place distance between myself and those I love most — especially my wife. I commit to identifying and ceasing that destructive habit so as to be more present with and of service to my family. I hope those of you that attended last might’s meeting received lessons and insights that were similarly as powerful for you.

I am sincerely grateful for the many gifts I receive by leading Full Monty. I recognize how remarkable it is to have so many honest, trusting and open relationships with as many men as I do as your DCIT. Just this morning, I spent time talking to several great men in our division, including Joe Grow and Richard Rutherford. This is truly a gift. I hope we all can see how truly blessed we are to have eachother and can express that in our own ways over the next several weeks as we celebrate the holidays as a community and in our own lives. (more…)

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Without exaggeration, I’m proud to say that I’m pumped and excited!! I’m excited about the condition and direction of Full Monty and about some amazing new developments in my life.

First, Full Monty. Not many men know this, but 2 weeks ago we had 20 guests at Full Monty team metings. To me, that is irrefutable proof that our circle is a powerful and attractive place to be. Furthermore, we have a cool new web presence, strong core team, and have just had 2 supremely successful Division Meetings. We all have so much to be proud of.

Personally, I’ve turned a major corner. At the MDI Convention, I received huge gifts that are translating into a new and lucrative career direction and a renewed loving and passionate way of being as a husband to my lovely wife. I am very grateful.

Next Tuesday, we have the privilege of being together just before we begin to celebrate the Holidays. I promise you, we are committed to providing you an experience that will empower and inspire you to bring the fullness of the mature masculine to your loved ones during this special time. I look forward to seeing each of you.

Let’s celebrate next week all that we have that we are grateful for. There are countless blessings in each of our lives, not the least of which is our circle of men.

Come with your heart open…and feel free to bring a guest.

Trust and respect,

Eddie Santana
Full Monty DCIT

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Editor’s Grunt

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In an effort to create a community on the site, you now have a blog where men can submit articles by emailing them to me at rlassers@gmail.com.  The difference between a blog and the home page of the bullet is that articles will be archived and will be accessible by categories or date. Another big difference on the blog page is the ability to post comments or expound on an article.  This will create discussion and provide feedback as well.

Some quick rules on commenting on the articles.

  • Keep the comments that pertain to the article
  • Attach your name with the comment
  • Hold the context of “community” in your comments
  • Be constructive whether positive or critical

The first man to post an article on The Bullet Blog is Marc Weiler.  On the core team call some men felt that knowing what a man does and detailing the details of his work would resonate with the other men in the division.

I am calling this category Profession Confessions, and with out further ado, I give you An Actor on Set by Mark Weiler.

– Lassers

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It’s been a tremendously rewarding year for me in my career over the past twelve months. I feel that I’ve finally earned the respect to have been invited to work with the elite in the television industry. This serves my higher purpose of being able to reach the masses with my inspirational message that anyone, from any small rural Midwestern town, from any set of circumstances, can live the life they’ve always wanted to live. I am living proof.

Over the past year, I’ve worked on shows for NBC, ABC and CBS working directly with Alan Arkin, Simon Baker and Christian Slater, who have taught me how professionals behave, and what the next level for me looks like.

My daily life is a slow, steady, self-motivated grind. I am my only boss. I have built a small, loyal, trust-worthy team around me, who understand what I have to offer, and work hard to convey that to the Gatekeepers and Decision-makers within the industry. I have developed the daily discipline of working out my body for 1 hour, networking with ten industry professionals, either writing one page or rehearsing a script for 1 hour, and daily research of current industry trends.

I am always prepared for my auditions and have learned to act professionally and respectfully in the socializing before and after. Like most sales pitches (which an audition is), it’s a numbers game. The more I audition, the more I book. I do not book many auditions percentage wise, but those I do book, are incredibly rewarding. (more…)

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